The Key To Getting The Outcome You Desire

Yesterday I told someone in conversation that she needs to hold the vision of her desired outcome in a court case while holding the belief that she'll be alright even if it goes another way.

The visualizing is no problem for her, she said. Just the belief around being OK is difficult.

And I said the thing I can't believe I said: "I get it; it feels so hard to believe you will be OK no matter what. The truth is it's just a choice like anything else."

A younger Rosella receiving such a message would have been like, "What the fuck do you mean? That's bullshit."

Well, I've grown. I've experienced the positive outcome when I held the vision of it with the idea that I'd be OK if it didn't happen that way, and the negative outcome of being in freak-out mode around it not happening. And guess what?

They were both CHOICES that I made. In one situation, I chose to be empowered around the outcome I sought. In the other, I chose not to be.

I chose.

Do I wish I'd chosen differently when I chose to be disempowered? Fuck yes, of course.

I can't go back in time and change the way it went. But I also won't be able to do the work I need to or allow myself to receive if I don't decide to forgive myself for the times I chose wrong. So I forgive myself for choosing incorrectly.

The truth is you're OK in every single moment.

Unless you're so hungry you could pass out!! (Hopefully you're not.)

Seriously, though. You're OK! Even if you're not sure where the money for that bill is going to come from. Even if you're cleaning a toilet for money. Even if you're moving back in with your parents.

No matter what is going on -- as long as you have your health -- you're OK. If you can connect with this, you'll experience the truest sense of security possible.

You have the power to be OK inside no matter what is going on outside of you.

And you can choose peace internal instead of turmoil just as easily.

Early this morning as I lay in bed trying to fall back asleep after waking up in the middle of my night, I felt a sense of impending doom. Freaking out about money, I tossed, flicking the covers off and pulling them on and flicking them off again. UNTIL. I FLIPPED the switch in my brain.

From freaked out to peaced in, I did it by pushing aside all the other what ifs to ask myself: What if something amazing is about to happen to me?

I realized some flaws with this wording, and reworked my question.

What if I'm about to do something amazing?

or even -

What if something more amazing than I expect is happening?

See, even in the moment, you can make the decision to reframe. To get totally different emotions. To get totally different results.

Guess what happened to me this morning? I woke up and wanted to go back to sleep. There was something I didn't really want to face. But I heard insistently, "Check your account with {company}."

I sort of grudgingly got up and opened my account.

BAM! There was a $700+ credit!!

I'm farther ahead than I thought with this specific account. And I give the credit to 4 a.m. Rosella who decided to reframe her worry into a positive What If.

Our decisions make all the different to our emotional well-being in the moment and our results in the long-term.

Can you make a new decision right now to shift both?

Oh, and always trust-
Your truth unlocks a whole big crazy cool life. Share if you dare!

With fervent hopes you'll return the love (truth),
Rosella