Give Your Children Rich Parents

I saw this picture on Instagram. It was a text-only meme that read:

"No Rich Parents
"No Assistance
"No Handouts
"No Favors
"Straight Hustle !"


Here's the problem: This doesn't just glorify hustling, it disparages those who may depend on the kindness of others or the generosity of their government to survive.

My attitudes about those who live in poverty are not perfectly Saint-like. In some respect, I have lived in poverty since my parents withdrew most of their financial support. (My mother expected that my father would financially care for me through college; he began withholding a lot of support after Chris and I got together.)

One thing my mother said to me, though I cannot remember the context is this: "Just promise me you will not ever sign up for food stamps." I agreed, because at the time, I did not identify as someone who needed them.

Spoiler alert: We did, later, eat many a meal sponsored by food stamps. And I release any shame about that.

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I remember working with a woman who claimed to be so successful, and seeing on her Blackberry that her father had bought coats for her children and she thanked him profusely. For a moment, I interpreted that to mean she wasn't as financially successful as she claimed (there were other "clues" I'd seen lending these words to that interpretation). I remember talking to my own father about this and he reminded me that many winters I wore coats my own grandparent had bought for me, not because my parents couldn't afford our winter coats but because it was a kind thing my grandparent wanted to do. 

Silly that I even needed that reframe from my father but it was effective. I realized that it was love that prompted this woman's father to give the coats. Now, years later, I know it was also LOVE and FAITH that empowered this woman to receive the gift from her father. She could have said, "Thanks, Dad, I've got this," but instead she gracefully received the gift for her children which I imagine her father felt great joy in giving.

One of my favorite affirmations is: I am the rich child of an abundant Universe.

You may, if you wish, take it for yourself and even replace the word "Universe" with God. Whatever works for you.

The point is that God or the Universe or Infinite Spirit has access to all of the riches of this world and to so much more than you can possibly imagine. And...

God gets creative in how he delivers riches to you. 

Like the night I was chanting "Om" along with a Wayne Dyer meditation as I walked to Rite Aid and there, on the ground in front of the store, was a $20 bill.

Like the time I was decluttering a closet and found a $5 in a plastic tote full of paperwork.

Like the $35 check I received in 2016 for a class action settlement against the Environmental Protection Agency, where I interned for $9.75 an hour the summer I was 14.

Like the time I was standing in line at Saladworks waiting to order my usual (a Greek salad with brussels sprouts instead of the onions and banana peppers) when I got an email that someone had bought a $17 digital toolkit. {My first passive sale!}

Abundance will seek you, and come in fantastic ways, when you are open to receiving.

(Increase your miracle awareness.)

I've had moments over the last few years where I have been literally hungry and ate because of the kindness of others, like my own Dad, from whom I grow ever better at receiving gifts. And I've had moments of resistance. I should be able to feed my damn self, I've thought. The longer I hold to these thoughts of resistance, the more painful my recovery becomes. 

If I've been knocked down and need help to get back up, who am I to deny the outstretched hand?

And who would you be to judge me for taking that outstretched hand?

Be careful not to judge others. This is a form of resistance, and that which we resist? We attract. 

Sharing a meme (or even simply nodding in agreement) with the words "No rich parents. No assistance. No handouts. No favors. Straight hustle!" is a surefire way to close yourself off from the gifts which God enjoys delivering.

If you're a child of the Universe (or God or Spirit) and you trash others out of jealousy for what or how they've received, you will reap that Karma by way of struggle.

This isn't meant to make you feel guilty. If you recognize these attitudes in yourself and you're still a mile (or more) away from the success you desire, I'm not telling you you'll never get there. Just that the way for us to get there is, I believe, through nonresistance and grace.

Intuition has guided me to read Florence Scovel Shinn's The Game of Life and How to Play It repeatedly yesterday and today, and I'm getting now that this is why. Shinn wrote in her classic book that the way to grace is by invoking the law of forgiveness.

"Jesus Christ brought the good news (the gospel) that there was a higher law than the law of Karma - and that that law transcends the law of Karma," wrote Shinn. "It is the law of grace, or forgiveness. It is the law which frees man from under the law of cause and effect - the law of consequence."

You can ask for forgiveness anytime. Adapting the 'word' that Shinn spoke over a client of hers who needed forgiveness, you may make a prayer that goes something like this: "Infinite Spirit, I call on the law of forgiveness, and give thanks that I am under grace and not under law, and that I shall have all that is mine by divine right."

I send love to you, wherever you are, and hope that you'll allow yourself to receive blessings in all ways.

For that which you wish for others shall also find its way to you.

Don't begrudge anyone their own rich parents if you wish to give your children rich parents.