Why I Hold Space for Clients to Be SELFISH
These arms of mine? ANY physical or virtual space I create? They’re always going to be safe spaces for you to be selfish.
I know. Holy cow. 😱
In the past 2 years, I have greatly valued the work and message of people who teach what some might call pure selfishness.
Let me take it back for a moment...
One day nearly 9 years ago, my very unhappy younger sister blamed me for all of her problems and I absorbed the belief that, “the world is better off without me.”
I do not hold this against my sister, it simply happened that way and it profoundly affected me. In fact, I did not particularly remember this or feel bound by it until just last week I did the mindset work that uncovered this.
That mindset work? I learned it from women who let me feel safe to be selfish and focus on me, and guided me to do the mindset work as a way to receive money.
Before diving into mindset work, I spent 6 years on largely futile efforts to help others. I wanted to take care of others as a way to feel better about myself. Then I would get in such a headspin about whether I was actually helping and if others appreciated my efforts. As you can imagine, this prevented me from having the impact I still feel a deep desire to have.
I had to get selfish and allow a desire for money to drive me into the mindset and energy work that has changed my life and actual happiness level.
So I feel a little frustrated when I see people begrudge others their “selfishness,” or pure desire for personal happiness. “Be focused on being of service [because you don’t matter if the world is sick],” they seem to say.
Happiness IS of service to the greater good.
A miserable person trying to do good in the world actually often does harm. And allowing myself to get selfish has actually changed my life.
A “sick world” heals a bit each time an individual finds and maintains happiness.
Click below if you’re ready for a coach to hold space for you to be totally selfish so you can have positive impact. Compassion for others comes easier once you practice self-compassion after all.