Why can't things be easier?
Here's what I've learned from personal experience...
The things that feel difficult are often made way more difficult than necessary by our own thoughts & actions.
Ask yourself how something can be easier, and you'll often get the exact answers you need that take the pressure or difficulty out of it.
As an example, something I was making way more difficult than it needed to be was emailing my list regularly. In my years of running an online business, I've not been consistent in emailing my list until the last 2 or 3 months. Some weeks, I'd email 4x, and other times, MONTHS would pass before the list got an email.
I feel a lot of self-judgment and hatred as I write this, but you know what? You learn when you learn and you can't hate yourself for the timing of it all.
So a few months ago, I had a realization. A light bulb moment. I discovered I was making this WAY harder than it needed to be. I could decide on (1) the schedule for emailing my list, and I chose daily despite knowing some people would HATE that, and (2) what the content looks like. I came at it with a lot of "rules" that I don't know where I'd gotten about what it had to look like. And I created fancy email templates (one called the Rosier Report) that had rigid content sections. I was overcomplicating it by a mile.
Finally, I asked myself, how can I make this easy so I know what I'm doing and it's enjoyable? I finally figured out I'd send a daily email, with the date the content was created at the top right like a handwritten letter. This way, while the goal was to send new content every single day, if there was a day I wasn't happy with what I'd written, I could send a previously written piece of content with the date so my readers would have some context for its contents. EASY. And enjoyable.
What feels so difficult to you? What do you wish was easier for you to accomplish or "get through"? Sit in silence, with or without a journal, and ask yourself, how CAN this actually just be easy? What can I strip away or add in to make this easier?
Maybe you need more time in meditation each day to handle the "stresses" of daily life. Maybe you need to spend more time writing it all out. Maybe you need to remove some rules you've created out of thin air or stick your fingers in your ears when others tell you it 'has to be this way' and say, "Nah-nah-nah-nah-nah, I'm doing it MY WAY!"
YOU GET TO DO ALL OF THESE THINGS, or whatever else your intuition tells you.
The other thing I've learned is that if you stick with the pain, push through, you'll come out a MUCH better person (a more expanded person in so many different ways) than you were before.
Like the other day, I decided to remove someone from my private Facebook community, and then I was doing a public livestream about the topic. This person watched, and commented, and I faced the camera directly and told this person that if they don't respect me, they could leave. It was intense and I wanted to throw down my phone and run as soon as I read their comment, and then I just did it. Ripped off the band-aid, said what needed saying, and I am EXTREMELY proud of myself for doing that.
You can focus on gratitude for the difficult thing and for what you're learning from it.
Like I'm incredibly grateful I had the chance to "face" the person who wasn't treating me the way I expect a member of my tribe to treat me, and to stand up for myself. I have run in the opposite direction from conflict so many times in my life. When you can face it head-on, you'll be so proud of yourself for leaning into that awkward growth.
This all comes down to having a mindset that allows for and nurtures your success.
Oh, and always trust-
Your truth unlocks a whole big crazy cool life. Share if you dare!
With fervent hopes you'll return the love (truth),